Friday, December 31, 2010

Random Year-End Musings and New Motto!

Mad Hatter Johnny at rehearsal December 30 in Moscow
with the lovely Masha as Alice!
Photo courtesy of the fabulous and charming Arthur Lookyanov,
Johnny's driver/guide while he's in Moscow.
Visit Arthur on Facebook or his website,
and follow him on Twitter!


(Random note #1: OMG can I just say that I love "Dirty Love"! [of course]. But beyond its fab retro '80s danceability groove, I love that the lyrics are very personal for Johnny. And I love love the "Arigato" and the chuckle at the end, for which I was completely unprepared when the full version hit his website and thus was startled into a little "squeee!" of joy the first time I heard it. Because it's like he's right there chuckling in your ear, with the hinted promise of snuffles to follow. [BRB listening again for the 398657820477th time ... ] And although there's been the inevitable trash-talking out there in the blogosphere about the song, there's been some blog love as well. I especially like the blurb from Scenestirz, who wrote: "This Is Everything and More: New music from figure skater, Johnny Weir, 'Dirty Love.' It's actually extremely catchy. He's doin' his thing. Can't hate on that." Exactly.)  

Kayso Johnny's in Russia which is nine hours ahead of me, a concept slightly more grasp-able for me than when he's in Australia or Japan, but he's still going to make it to the New Year way ahead of me which seems about right actually because at 26 he's way ahead of me in a lot of things.

For starters, he knows who he is—knows it, embraces it, inhabits it, believes in it, lives it, loves it, owns it.

It has taken me quite a bit longer to get to that place.

(Random note #2: Oh BTW this has been annoying me for days now: Yes, Johnny knows who he is, and so do I. Anyone who thinks I'm confusing him—or that he might confuse himself (AS IF. LOL)—with Jesus because of phrases like "Merry Weirmas" or "Sweet Weirsus" (a) clearly dropped their sense of humor into the Salvation Army kettle along with their dollar and (b) is just not paying attention to anything I've written. Of course he's not Jesus. But IMO he lives the Christian messages of love and truth more authentically than nearly everyone I've ever met in any church. And the profound irony of that is something I gaily appreciate every day.)

It's only in the past year that I have come to understand how much of my life I've spent mired in Fear-Based Living, starting when I was very very young—fear of ever being noticed, of sidling out of the shadows, of doing something that drew all eyes to me—because the consequences of sudden attention were nearly always very very bad.

Being invisible was much safer.

And then long periods of fear-based churchianity—fear that demanded that I conform and stay in the box and keep the doors shut and the shades drawn and all outsiders, well, outside, of course (whilst we inside condemn them sourly amongst ourselves), and also that I continue to be invisible at all costs so that if people happened to look at me, they would see God, not me. (Not ever realizing what a perversion of the message that is—that striving for invisibility is to deny the uniquely beautiful person I was created to be, from whom light can radiate only if I am fully and completely myself. Otherwise, I'm just kind of a dull, dim flashlight whose battery is dying and who can't really illuminate anything for anybody.)

And also the paralyzing fear of having a voice, of speaking up, of being heard, and of choosing for myself. (More irony: I was confessing to NinjaGirl the other day that I was afraid to choose to blog about being afraid to speak up for fear that I didn't really have anything worthwhile to say about it. How sad is that?)

What a harsh and unforgiving way to live.

And wow. How much I don't want to do that anymore.

(Random note #3: A bunch of people have asked me where the name "Binky and the Misfit Mimes" comes from. "Binky" was my husband's nickname for me since before we were married, as a way of preventing me from taking myself too seriously because really, how seriously can anyone take you when your name is Binky? The "Misfit Mimes" part was coined by my daughter, and describes how we felt during our long overstay in churchianity: Complete misfits who were miming what was going on around us—mouthing the words, making the hollow gestures, smiling the plastic smiles, trying to absorb the smug unwritten prejudices—but who were really just not able to buy into it. Believe me, we tried. What an enormous relief it was to finally give up and admit to each other: "Wow. I just don't get it. Wait, you don't either? Oh, thank God. Can we stop now?")

So about a year ago the God of my heart said, "Yes, please stop that. And pay attention. I have something to show you."

And here we are.

So.

Over these past months, thanks to my endless fascination with Johnny and the whole new world that has opened to me as a result, I have rediscovered something buried deep within me beneath the fear.

It's always been there, burning white-hot, enabling me to burst out of my life at certain crucial moments: to defy my dad; to leave an abusive partner; to confront my parents; to willingly give everything I have, without hesitation, so I could mother my children with unbridled ferocity and very much outside the box so that they can be who they are.

It empowers me to be my best self, fully me, and to embrace who I am—inhabit it, believe in it, live it, love it, own it—and be the fiery fierce bitch I was meant to be.

It's love.

Welcome to Binky 2.011. Home of Love-Based Living. (Motto: More Weir, Less Fear.)

I can't wait to see what the New Year holds for Johnny, and for all of us who are inspired by his blazingly fearless example of love that lives out loud.

Whatever happens, I know for sure, with all the love in my fierce-bitch heart:

We're all going to be doin' our thing. Can't hate on that.

And it's going to be AMAZING.

Happy New Weir!



Special thanks to Irina--"MsLys26" on YouTube--for this
wonderful moment!


Designer T. Rains and Johnny have teamed up to raise money and awareness for The Trevor Project! This organization is "determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources." Proceeds from the "Army of One" t-shirt sales will go to The Trevor Project foundation. Order yours today! Your support is greatly appreciated!
For more information, please visit www.thetrevorproject.org.





Yes! You can own a fine art print of Johnny
perfect for any/every room in the house!
Prints of artist Peter Jurik's "Showtime!"
are available for purchase from his website.
More info here!

Special thanks to Mel Lockhart for the phrases,
"Happy New Weir" and "JohnnyWeir 11, 2011."
You rock, Mel!

Here it comes: Johnny's quarter-century memoir,
Welcome to My World, will be available
January 11, 2011--(WeirDate: JohnnyWeir 11, 2011)!
You can preorder it now from multiple sites!
Or preorder a special autographed Collector's Edition
from Premiere Collectibles!

Please remember to
register to receive
the JW Art Project's email newsletter!
They have great tidbits to offer,
and you get a special sneak peek at an exclusive photo
from the Artbook when you sign up!

copyright 2010 / Binky and the Misfit Mimes / Lynn V. Ingogly / all rights reserved

Thursday, December 23, 2010

And a Very Merry Weirmas to All!

For me, Weirmas came early this year--December 11, to be exact, in Flint, Michigan, of all places (that were not on my list of cities I'd really love to visit someday ...).

And there all of us in attendance received gift after gift: The first public performance of "Dirty Love"; beautiful skating by all the elite skaters who joined Johnny in the show; adorable young skaters giving their all and loving every minute of it; and afterward, the gift of Johnny's time, as he graciously met with fan after fan after fan, engaging each in real conversation and, with endless patience, autographing anything and everything that was set before him.

And so here is my gift to you--just Johnny, in one last set of meet-
n-greet photos taken by my son David, who quietly captured this unforgettable evening in beautiful detail.

I'm taking a little hiatus from the blog to enjoy some time with my family. I wish each of you peace and joy this holiday season.

And also love.

Because the greatest gift we can give one another is love. Love that offers unconditional acceptance--of those who are similar to us, and those who are different.

Straight, gay, black, white, man, woman, young, old, thin, fat, Christian, Muslim, atheist, and all labels in between--love embraces us all. Love knows no boundaries. Love has no end. And love has room for everyone.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

Merry Weirmas
with love
from Binky



















Very special thanks to David Ingogly
for all the photos!



The cover art for "Dirty Love" is now
on Amazon and Johnny's website. OMGIDIE.



Designer T. Rains and Johnny have teamed up to raise money and awareness for The Trevor Project! This organization is "determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources." Proceeds from the "Army of One" t-shirt sales will go to The Trevor Project foundation. Order yours today! Your support is greatly appreciated!
For more information, please visit www.thetrevorproject.org.





Yes! You can own a fine art print of Johnny
perfect for any/every room in the house!
Prints of artist Peter Jurik's "Showtime!"
are available for purchase from his website.
More info here!

Here it comes: Johnny's quarter-century memoir,
Welcome to My World, will be available
January 11, 2011--that's less than a month away!
You can preorder it now on Amazon!
Or pre-order a special autographed Collector's Edition
from Premiere Collectibles!

Please remember to
register to receive
the JW Art Project's email newsletter!
They have great tidbits to offer,
and you get a special sneak peek at an exclusive photo
from the Artbook when you sign up!

copyright 2010 / Binky and the Misfit Mimes / Lynn V. Ingogly /
David W. Ingogly / all rights reserved

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

SWTS Finale: Scorching. Wicked. Totally. Speechless.

Johnny during his stunning SWTS finale performance
with Jennifer Wester, Denis Petukhov, and Keauna McLaughlin,
choreographed by Laurieann Gibson to Alicia Keys'
"Try Sleeping With a Broken Heart."
Special thanks to "Puri Monsta" on Facebook
for the screen cap!


Please watch this:



OMG.

This.

This is skating.

This is skating unfettered by points and politics and petty power plays.

This is skating as performance art--as Cirque du Soleil meets the Bolshoi meets Lady Gaga in an explosion of passion and athleticism and beauty and artistry so spellbinding that you are absolutely mesmerized and all you know is you can't explain it--you can only experience it--and Sweet Weirsus, you wish it would never end.

And also that you would pay big, big money to see hours of this nonstop. Like, say, in a Skating Spectacular starring the only man on the planet who can create this kind of art on ice. Who is so dazzling, so captivating, so expressive, and who so embodies every note of music that you are completely transported into another world--an exotic, erotic, deliciously dangerous place that slices right through your soul and leaves you ...

... spent.

Wow.

And so.

I'm back where I started all those months ago.

When I wrote, in my very first entry on this blog, the exact same thing I thought last night after watching this performance--even on that teensy tinsy rink (and BTW Denis, Jennifer, and Keauna were all fabulous as well):

[Other competitive skaters are] Math on Ice.

Johnny is [beautiful, blazing hot, poignant, leaving you out of breath and always wanting more] Sex on Ice.

Yes.

So much yes.

(Oh, and Rebecca won! Yay!)



Caged no more ...

... fly and be free, Johnny.



The cover art for "Dirty Love" is now
on Amazon and Johnny's website. OMGIDIE.



Season 1 of Skating With the Stars has ended!
Congratulations to winners
Rebecca Budig and Fred Palascak!
(Dear Santa: Thank you for the early Weirmas presents--
Rebecca's win and Johnny's performance!
Now could you please give Johnny his own skating show
that airs daily on my TV...? )



Designer T. Rains and Johnny have teamed up to raise money and awareness for The Trevor Project! This organization is "determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources." Proceeds from the "Army of One" t-shirt sales will go to The Trevor Project foundation. Order yours today! Your support is greatly appreciated!
For more information, please visit www.thetrevorproject.org.



Yes! You can own a fine art print of Johnny
perfect for any/every room in the house!
Prints of artist Peter Jurik's "Showtime!"
are available for purchase from his website.
More info here!

Here it comes: Johnny's quarter-century memoir,
Welcome to My World, will be available
January 11, 2011--that's less than a month away!
You can preorder it now on Amazon!
Or pre-order a special autographed Collector's Edition
from Premiere Collectibles!

Special thanks to Jenn Kittler for the vid
and the additional screen cap!

Please remember to
register to receive
the JW Art Project's email newsletter!
They have great tidbits to offer,
and you get a special sneak peek at an exclusive photo
from the Artbook when you sign up!

copyright 2010 / Binky and the Misfit Mimes / Lynn V. Ingogly / all rights reserved

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

OMGWTFBBQSWTS

Johnny at the meet-n-greet
at Holiday Dreams on Ice, December 11.
Not sure what he's reacting to here,
but this is pretty much the look on my face
after last night's SWTS ...


Wow. Well, this will be brief because I didn't see that coming and I'm still in shock. Jonny Moseley, my personal SWTS favorite (after Denis, of course, but let's not dwell) did NOT make it to the finale, so instead it's the lovely Rebecca Budig going toepick-to-toepick with OMG-What-The-Actual-F*ck-Just-Happened-Here--yes, she who suddenly went all sicky-sweet Splenda on us last night, and sort of cried or something after her free skate.

And so of course the only rational response was to immediately vote vote vote for Rebecca and Fred on every available phone and with every possible email address, including a brief foray into pondering whether, if my beloved grandfather were still alive, he would use email (yes) and what he might have chosen for his address (hmmmmm) and whether or not he would be #TeamRebecca (most definitely) ...

Online voting actually continues today until 3 pm EST / 2 pm CST / 1 pm MST / 12 noon PST, so please, VOTE NOW if you have any votes/assumed identities left!

Johnny seemed to be in a good mood throughout the show--which keeps improving every week, IMO, and I really hope ABC will give it a chance at a second season to settle in and find its audience--despite signs that he's still fighting a cold, and he was classy and kind toward OMG-She-Cannot-Possibly-Win-This-Thing-Can-She, to his credit. But my very favorite Johnny moment was this, when Vernon (after all these weeks I'm still NOT o-) Kay (with his performance as host but oh well now it's almost over) announced that Johnny would be performing on tonight's finale:


My other favorite moment was when the judges gave Jonny and Brooke their scores, during which Johnny is clearly cracking up for some unknown reason, which makes me crack up too even though I have no idea what's going on with him and Laurieann:


But wow, I am so bummed about Jonny and Brooke. Fortunately, Wendy Stevens came to my rescue almost immediately by uploading Johnny's Kaleidoscope performances so I could use them to wipe my mind of images of Skeletor on Ice:


Johnny's Ave Maria performance from Kaleidoscope,
December 8, 2011, San Antonio, Texas ...


... and his Bad Romance. About which I can only say: WOW!
And then click "replay" ...


So that helped. As does the fact that Johnny is performing in the finale with Denis Petukhov (yay!), Keauna McLaughlin, and Jennifer Wester in a group number choreographed by Laurieann to Alicia Keys' "Try Sleeping With a Broken Heart." I can hardly wait for the fabulousness!

But seriously: I'm still shaking my head over this finale. How on earth is it not Jonny and Rebecca? As the news exploded across Twitter last night, my friend JEKitten offered this explanation:


Lolololololol. Votevotevotevotevote ...



The cover art for "Dirty Love" is now
on Amazon and Johnny's website. OMGIDIE.



The finale of Skating With the Stars
airs TONIGHT,
at 8 pm EST / 7 pm CST!
Don't miss it!
(Dear Santa: All I want for Weirmas
is for Rebecca to WIN THIS THING!!!)



Designer T. Rains and Johnny have teamed up to raise money and awareness for The Trevor Project! This organization is "determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources." Proceeds from the "Army of One" t-shirt sales will go to The Trevor Project foundation. Order yours today! Your support is greatly appreciated!
For more information, please visit www.thetrevorproject.org.



Yes! You can own a fine art print of Johnny
perfect for any/every room in the house!
Prints of artist Peter Jurik's "Showtime!"
are available for purchase from his website.
More info here!

Here it comes: Johnny's quarter-century memoir,
Welcome to My World, will be available
January 11, 2011--that's less than a month away!
You can preorder it now on Amazon!
Or pre-order a special autographed Collector's Edition
from Premiere Collectibles!

Please remember to
register to receive
the JW Art Project's email newsletter!
They have great tidbits to offer,
and you get a special sneak peek at an exclusive photo
from the Artbook when you sign up!

copyright 2010 / Binky and the Misfit Mimes / Lynn V. Ingogly / all rights reserved


Monday, December 20, 2010

Random Stuff in No Particular Order Because Even Alphabetical Seemed Hard But Hey Here's More Pics!

Random "Dirty Love" performance pic from Holiday Dreams on Ice,
December 11, 2010, courtesy of David Ingogly.


OK, there's a bunch of stuff we need to go over but I'm not really caffeinated at the moment hence the lack of any discernible organizational method other than that there are words and pictures together on a page.

First of all, a major heartfelt squeeeeee left over from Friday for anybody who might have missed it:


Which means he actually got to read everybody's beautiful messages of love that were screen-capped (thank you again, NinjaGirl!) from his Facebook fan page and blogged here. And that is just one big happy. :)

Next there's this article, which was posted on his official website AND tweeted by Tara--and that was all it took for us to ROCK THIS VOTE! I LOVE this, because not only does the writer diss She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named-(But-If-She-Were-I-Would-Do-So-By-Taking-Her-First-Initial-and-Using-It-to-Replace-the-"W"-in-"Witch"):

"Bethenny has decided she does not care what the judges say, which is mostly that she’s awful, and instead says she is skating for America. America wants you to know, Bethenny, we agree with the judges."

The writer also gives props to Johnny for his "You Don't Care/I Don't Care" critique of I'm-Sorry-What-Was-Your-Name-Again-I-Couldn't-Hear-You-Over-Your-Stridently-Appalling-Attitude on last week's SWTS:

"Finally, [Johnny closed out the year] with his stint as a judge on Skating With the Stars and let Bethenny have it on episode four--and it is safe to say this diva definitely OWNED that diva."

So when I first saw this article Sunday morning, Kate Gosselin was ahead in the voting for Biggest Reality Diva of 2010 by a huge margin. But once Johnny's fans got ahold of the link and started FB'ing it and tweeting it everywhere, it took less than 12 hours for him to grab the lead decisively. IDK when voting ends, but please let's just keep going till they make us stop cuz it's fun and this writer is my new bff.

And then there was Kaleidoscope, the San Antonio show in which he performed on December 8 with a world-record case of jet lag and which was broadcast on Fox yesterday afternoon at various times around the country, resulting in a huge FB and Twitter Johnny lovefest after it aired. Here's just a sample:





Which brings us to today and tomorrow and the finale of Skating With the Stars! (Hey, actually this is kinda in chronological order! Which is pretty good for someone who has no idea WTF time it is right now.) Tonight the final three pairs will perform, and one pair will be eliminated (please Sweet Weirsus, Holy Mother of Gaga, and of course Santa Claus, let this be the end of Frankel-My-Dear-I-Don't-Give-A-Damn tonight ...). And tomorrow night the final two couples will compete, the champion will be crowned, but more importantly, Johnny will be performing again in a special number with Jennifer Wester, Keauna McLaughlin, and Denis Petukhov, choreographed by Laurieann Gibson! Can't wait!

And so, as a reminder to Rhymes-With-"With-An-'E'"-Which-Apparently-Very-Few-of-Her-Fans-Realize-Or-Else-They-Really-Really-Just-Can't-Spell that it's all about the SKATING, please enjoy these additional random HDOI pics of someone who knows that all the way to his soul. And who can even skate while he's singing (whereas she can't even skate while she's skating ...):














Very special thanks to my son, David Ingogly,
for all the HDOI photos!
(Memo to self: Don't leave home without him
when attending Johnny events...)



The cover art for "Dirty Love" is now
on Amazon and Johnny's website. OMGIDIE.



The next episode of Skating With the Stars
airs TONIGHT,
at 8 pm EST / 7 pm CST!
Don't miss it!
(Dear Santa: All I want for Weirmas
is STILL for Bethenny to please please just go away.)



Designer T. Rains and Johnny have teamed up to raise money and awareness for The Trevor Project! This organization is "determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources." Proceeds from the "Army of One" t-shirt sales will go to The Trevor Project foundation. Order yours today! Your support is greatly appreciated!
For more information, please visit www.thetrevorproject.org.



Yes! You can own a fine art print of Johnny
perfect for any/every room in the house!
Prints of artist Peter Jurik's "Showtime!"
are available for purchase from his website.
More info here!

Here it comes: Johnny's quarter-century memoir,
Welcome to My World, will be available
January 11, 2011--that's less than a month away!
You can preorder it now on Amazon!
Or pre-order a special autographed Collector's Edition
from Premiere Collectibles!

Please remember to
register to receive
the JW Art Project's email newsletter!
They have great tidbits to offer,
and you get a special sneak peek at an exclusive photo
from the Artbook when you sign up!

copyright 2010 / Binky and the Misfit Mimes / Lynn V. Ingogly /
David W. Ingogly / all rights reserved